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I’m Two, But I am NOT Terrible!

by Bump, Baby & You

Diary of a 2 year old:

Today I woke up and wanted to get dressed by myself but was told “No, we don’t have time, let me do it.”

This made me sad. I wanted to feed myself for breakfast but was told “No, you’re too messy, let me do it for you.” This made me feel frustrated.

I wanted to walk to the car and get in on my own but was told, “No, we need to get going, we don’t have time. Let me do it.” This made me cry.

I wanted to get out of the car on my own but was told “No, we don’t have time, let me do it.” This made me want to run away.

Later I wanted to play with blocks but was told “no, not like that, like this…” I decided I didn’t want to play with blocks any more. I wanted to play with a doll that someone else had, so I took it, I was told “no, don’t do that, you have to share.”

I’m not sure what I did, but it made me sad. So I cried. I wanted a hug but was told “no, you’re fine, go play”.

I’m being told it’s time to pick up, I know this because someone keeps saying, “Go pick up your toys.” I am not sure what to do, I am waiting for someone to show me….” What are you doing, why are you just standing there, pick up your toys…Now.” I was not allowed to dress myself or move my own body to get to where I needed to go, but now I am being asked to pick things up.

I’m not sure what to do. Is someone supposed to show me how to do this? Where do I start? Where do these things go? I am hearing a lot of words but I do not understand what is being asked of me. I am scared and do not move.

I lay down on the floor and cry.

When it was time to eat I wanted to get my own food but was told “no, you’re too little, let me do it.” This made me feel small. I tried to eat the food in front of me but I did not put it there and someone keeps saying “here, try this, eat this…” and putting things in my face. I didn’t want to eat anymore. This made me want to throw things and cry.

I can’t get down from the table because no one will let me… because I’m too small and I can’t. They keep saying I have to take a bite. This makes me cry more. I’m hungry and frustrated and sad. I’m tired and I need someone to hold me. I do not feel safe or in control. This makes me scared. I cry even more.

I am 2. No one will let me dress myself, no one will let me move my own body where it needs to go, no one will let me attend to my own needs.

However, I am expected to know how to share, “listen”, or “wait a minute”. I am expected to know what to say and how to act or handle my emotions. I am expected to sit still or know that if I throw something it might break….

But, I do NOT know these things.

I am not allowed to practice my skills of walking, pushing, pulling, zipping, buttoning, pouring, serving, climbing, running, throwing or doing things that I know I can do. Things that interest me and make me curious, these are the things I am NOT allowed to do.

I am 2. I am not terrible…I am frustrated. I am nervous, stressed out, overwhelmed, and confused. I need a hug.

-Author unknown


This definitely struck a chord with me, as my son is going through the ‘terrible twos’… it made me completely rethink my approach to his behaviour!

Tell me your thoughts in the comments.

Love from Katie. Xx

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5 comments

Anonymous 1st February 2019 - 11:06 pm

This just makes parents feel guilty. Everyday is different we do let children do things on their own explore their own way but simply some days we don’t have time!

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Bump, Baby & You 2nd February 2019 - 8:10 am

Hi there! It’s not intended to elicit guilt or anything like that; merely show the perspective of a toddler in an interesting way! 🙂 I totally agree, and lack time myself on a daily basis, it’s idealist for anyone to think that parents could let toddlers do their own thing 24/7 so I do agree with you. xx

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Shannon 2nd February 2019 - 5:55 pm

Absolutely love this! Take a deep breath and realise our babies are humans. They have good days and bad dad just like we do. They have emotions like we do, and I think we should treat them like we do, talk and let them understand. Not put them in time out for expressing how they feel!

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Joe 19th April 2019 - 5:05 pm

I really love this perspective! I’m a mother of 3 and teach at colleg Early Years – I can’t wait to share this with my students to spark some deeper thinking ❤️

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Lisa Fergusson 8th September 2019 - 2:15 am

I am a mother of three, one teenager who is too grown up for her own good yet still can come across as a ‘terrible two year old’! I am also a Nanna of an 15 month old delight who is also forward and displaying ‘terrible two’s traits. This perspective is brilliant and reminds us that while we get frustrated and confused over the tantrums that they are scared and confused and cannot yet ask questions. Thank you for sharing

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