Respecting The Boundaries of The New Mummy

So, you’ve just delivered a new baby. No matter how you did it, you’re likely to be exhausted, covered in bodily fluids, and starting the precious bonding process in those tender first few hours.

It goes without saying that the majority of new mummies cherish this vulnerable, intimate time and appreciate some alone time to let things settle before being inundated with visitors! Most people, thankfully, have the common sense to understand and respect these boundaries, so negative stories are quite uncommon but after reading this viral story, we just HAD to share it with a few tips to help our expectant followers to feel empowered and assertive.

Emily Regan has bravely spoken out about her terrible experience, both pre and post partum, and we’re in utter shock at what she’s shared here, as well as being full of admiration for both her bravery in speaking out and her decision to leave this relationship.

Emily Regan’s Story…

The morning I was going to be induced, he was angry with me. He was angry that I preferred his mother not to be in the…

Posted by Emily Regan on Monday, 19 August 2019

Our tips for new mummies wanting their privacy to be respected

  • Keep your labour on the down low. Your partner should respect this. You could also compromise to only tell select close family on the basis that they need to keep the news quiet, and not pile into the hospital immediately.
  • Speak to the staff on duty. Most UK hospitals won’t (and shouldn’t) let anyone pile into the delivery suite, they’ll have to wait until you’re on the ward and even then, only during visitor hours. If you’re concerned that overly eager people will turn up, make sure the staff are aware and able to send them away.
  • Dig. Your. Heels. In. Ladies, you’re the one going through the physical act of birth. If YOU don’t want people visiting you at the hospital, or even at home for a while, people don’t have to like it but if they’re special people in your life, they should understand and visit when you’re feeling up to it.
  • Reevaluate your relationships with anyone who doesn’t understand how you feel about the situation, or your wellbeing after giving birth – like Emily’s ex partner. Your baby needs you to be strong, healthy and supported, and toxic people aren’t the best support network.
  • No one is entitled to see your new baby instantly. Quite simply, they can wait.

Do you have a story similar to Emily’s? Any tips or advice? Tell us in the comments!

Love from Katie & Team BBY. Xx