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AITA: Refused To Donate Breast Milk To Sister

Donating breast milk is such an altruistic, kind act that can help so many babies, especially those with medical needs in NICU.

However, it goes without saying that it's a personal choice and the ability to donate your expressed milk is based on your own circumstances; some mums are only able to pump just enough to feed their baby with none spare, and some need to supplement with donated milk or formula. It's not a 'one size fits all' scenario. Simply put, not all expressing mums have milk to spare!

One mum took to the Reddit AITA (Am I The Asshole) board to ask, is she the asshole for not wanting to donate her precious expressed milk so that her expecting sister can make some soap for her unborn baby - read the post below.


Find the full post here - credit to Reddit.

What was the general consensus?

The general consensus amongst Reddit readers was that the poster is NTA - not the asshole. She clearly cares about her sister and her unborn baby, but she's absolutely not in the wrong considering that she pumps just enough to feed her own child. Some pointed out that even if she did have an oversupply, her sister would STILL not be 'entitled' to any of the spare milk, as the mummy had spent a lot of time and energy producing it. Other readers commented that if it was for an emergency medical situation such as feeding a NICU baby, it would be an entirely different matter, but as her sister only requires her milk to craft some soap, she's absolutely not being selfish for prioritising feeding her child. The top comment was...

"Uh your sister can use her own breast milk to make soap. What in the world. Some women struggle to make enough milk to feed their own babies. She’s being self centered and entitled. NTA"

Our verdict...

The top comment put it perfectly! We can see that the poster is a caring, loving sister who is incredibly happy for her sister, but is also deeply upset about being badmouthed and called selfish. Fundamentally, feeding her own baby is more important than making soap for an unborn baby who may or may not have sensitive skin... In fact, we'd say her pregnant sister sounds entitled and immature. Perhaps it's just the pregnancy hormones running amok, but we certainly hope that their mum and other relatives tell her to rein it in, pronto!

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