AITA: Don't Want In-Laws To Throw Me A Baby Shower

Baby showers are a lovely way for your nearest and dearest to come together and celebrate the new life that will soon enter the world.

But one new Mum to be took to Reddits AITA (Am I The Asshole?) board after her Mother in Law decided she wanted to throw the baby shower, but not before the baby was born but one week after the birth. 

Read the main post below...

"I (22f) am having my first baby mid August. It was unplanned and we are just going with the flow of it. But my mother in law (41) and her sister want to throw me a baby shower after the baby is born. The shower is planned for 1 week after my due date. My boyfriend (20m) thinks I’m being over dramatic because I don’t wanna be around a bunch of people I’ve never even met before 1 week postpartum. The reason why they want to have it after the baby is born is so people actually show up and people would want to snuggle and hold the baby saying nobody would show up if we did it before the baby was born. I am not a people person. I wouldn’t care if I didn’t even have a baby shower at all. I have a hard time being in big crowds of my own family let alone a ton of family friends who I’ve never met and the center of attention would be my baby and I. AITA if I tell them I don’t want the baby shower?"

Read the full Reddit thread here

What was the general consensus?

The poster was voted as NTA (Not The Asshole). One of the top comments said:

"NTA. This is literally a terrible idea.

1. You’ll be healing and will have JUST given birth. Lord knows how labor will go and how you’ll be feeling physically.

2. The baby will be highly susceptible to germs. It sounds like they intend to have a bunch of people snuggling and kissing on baby. HELL no. Stay away from my newborn with your germs. That is a recipe for disaster."

While another said:

"NTA. Tell them you don't want a baby shower. Tell them you're not sure you want visitors and certainly not strangers a week after you've given birth.

Set these boundaries now and stand very firm on them.

If he gets mad, tell your boyfriend to push a baby out of his cooch and let a bunch of strangers hover over him while he's bleeding into a diaper, running on less than ideal amount of sleep, and taking care of a brand-new baby.

Oh, he can't do those things? Well then maybe he should shut it. 🤷🏼‍♀️"

Our verdict...

While the Mother in Law might have had the best of intentions, it doesn't seem like the new Mum was at the front of her mind while planning this. Once a baby is born, it's in that time you take to recover, bond with baby and get into the swing of a new routine and life with a newborn. We hope this new Mum will stand her ground and only do what she is comfortable doing postpartum. 

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