A lot goes into planning a wedding, no matter how big or small it is. There is a lot to consider; dates, budgets, food, music, dress, invites, the list goes on and on...
After all of that, imagine being asked to change the time of your wedding ceremony to accommodate your nephews nap schedule. One bride to be took to Reddits AITA (Am I The Asshole?) board when her sister came to her with this unreasonable request...
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"I [F24] am getting married to my fiancé [M26] in October this year. We got engaged in January and couldn't be more excited.
It's a very small wedding and we're only inviting close family and friends.
The problem is with my sister Lisa [F30]. Lisa has a 2 year old son with her husband. I don't have a super affectionate relationship with Lisa for multiple reasons that I can't fit into this post.
We sent out the wedding invites last month. Our wedding ceremony starts at 1:30pm and we asked our guests to please arrive at the venue by 1:00. The venue is in our hometown so is close by to the majority of the people in our guest list including Lisa.
Lisa told me that the time 'wouldn't work' because of her 2 year old's nap schedule. She said he takes a nap at 12 and that she's not forcing him to be awake so she can get him ready for the event or he will be a terror. I don't have kids but I thought this was a silly reason? I asked Lisa if she could find a babysitter and she said she can't because everyone she trusts will be at the wedding. I suggested that they at least attend the reception but she said she won't if she can't be at the wedding.
She told me she won't attend the wedding unless we change the time. I told her we can't do that. Lisa said she's not going then. I was quite hurt by this. I wasn't sure how to react in the moment so I just abruptly ended the conversation with an excuse.
A few days later Lisa asked me if I thought about her suggestion. I reminded her there's no way we can change the time. She told me she hopes I'm happy that they aren't attending and said that everyone is going to ask why she's not there and it's all because I can't accomodate my nephew. I snapped at her and told her the world doesn't revolve around her and her son. She called me a bridezilla and has blocked me.
My mom is pestering me to make ammends with Lisa but I just don't think I'm in the wrong."
What was the general consensus?
The poster was voted NTA (Not The Asshole). One of the top comments said:
"NTA. Asking someone to rearrange their entire wedding to accommodate your kid's nap schedule is beyond ridiculous and entitled, no matter how you're related to them. If she doesn't come, that's on her, not you."
While another commented:
"NTA. When people ask why she isn’t there, tell them the truth: “Lisa wanted us to change the time to accommodate her son’s nap, and refused to attend when we couldn’t.”"
It's quite outrageous for someone to ask you to change the time of your wedding that has been booked for months/years to accommodate a childs nap schedule. While it can be important for nap schedules to be in place, you can't expect anyone to change their events because of it! Hopefully the sister can come up with an alternative, a comment suggested maybe the childs fathers family could watch the baby so the sister doesn't miss out. It would be a shame to miss your sisters big day because your child is napping.
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