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AITA: Sister's Baby Has Same Name As Mine

We're sure many of you will have had baby name worries before.

It can be stressful if you're pregnant at the same time as a friend or relative, and they have their heart set on the same baby name as you! A lot of people don't mind, but it can cause friction at times - particularly if the two mamas-to-be are closely related. It can be confusing enough having two children in the family with similar sounding names, let alone the same name, right?

One mum took to the Reddit AITA (am I the asshole) board to ask, is she the asshole for being annoyed that her sister plans to give her incoming baby girl the SAME name as her own daughter? Meaning... the cousins would have the same first name! Read her post below...



Read the full post her - credit to Reddit.

What was the general consensus?

It was a pretty concise verdict in the comments - the poster was voted NTA (not the asshole) for being angry that her sister wants to name her daughter Violet, despite having a niece with that name. However, some people shared their own shared family names, with a surprising number of people having the same name or a similar name as their own first cousins! One comment looked at the situation from a different perspective...

"They're 10 years apart in age and only see each other once or twice a year. This is not going to be confusing. This happens all the time in big families, particularly where kids get named after late relatives, and kids just end up with different nicknames. Or one is "OP's Violet" and the other is "Sister's Violet". Whatever. It's literally just two people, she's making it into a much bigger deal than it needs to be."

This was definitely an interesting take on the squabble - looking at it from this angle, perhaps it won't ever be an issue and if the poster's sister loves the name that much then she should use it. Also, as she pointed out, no one 'owns' a name! The top rated comment, however, disagreed and said;

"NTA. Naming your kid the same name as your sibling’s kid is just a really weird thing to do IMO!"

Our verdict...

We hate family drama, it's sad to see siblings falling out and feel like these sisters could do with a sit down and chat over this sorry saga. There could be a compromise reached - a variation of the cherished name, perhaps? It is a little odd to choose a baby name that one of your own nieces and nephews go by, but sometimes in larger families this is actually not uncommon or even seen as abnormal!

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